Real Human Contact

In this day and age of modern ways of communicate we forget that actual talking, and face to face time goes a long way. Text messages are ok for simple messages but they lack the emotions you feel from hearing tone of voice, laughter, sarcasm, crying, etc. When couples face troubles real communication is what is going to get them over the hurdle, as discussed in Texting Leave Out More Than Just Vowels discusses how real communication makes large impacts. Memories are created from contact and real involvement, something more than you can get from a text message, email, or instant messaging. Younger generations are leaving out the communication and trading it in for electronics, which there is nothing wrong with but in a relationship you need something more. You need to feel the caress of your partner, the sound of their voice and just being together is what will cause your relationship to develop and grow stronger. Messages not given in person can also be taken the wrong way because you can't hear the tone of voice, which can cause arguments that would have been prevented if the phone was picked up and used instead.

This is especially true when partners are separated for what ever reason. If the seperation is due to travel it has been known to cause higher emotional distress and real interaction was the only thing that helped with the distress "In fact, only a long phone conversation-not a bonanza of emails, texts, or voice messages-was effective at ameliorating these participants' negative experiences brought on by the separation." That is from Separation Distress Among Romantic Partners and its Lessons for Human Mating, this talks about how seperation causes high stress, and anxiety. This just goes to show that we need real contact in order for our relationships to grow, and how attached we become to one another but even that attachment needs constant reassurance from something more than an electronic message.